Anyone's toddler becoming more sensitive?

MommyToAshley wrote: Ashley is pretty good, and usually listens, so I don't have to discipline her too often. And, she's not really a crier either. However, lately I have noticed that she is more sensitive when I discipline her, even if it is just speaking to her firmly. For example, yesterday she was coloring and I saw *the look* (you know, the one where she is about to do something she knows is wrong), and I watched her head towards the wall and lift the crayon... I said to her very firmly "Ashley, no-no, don't color on the wall, crayons are for paper only. If you color on the wall, I will take your crayons away" She was shocked that she was busted, she didn't know I was watching, and then she busted out in tears. She's done this a couple other times over the past week... this is something new. It's one of those cries like her heart is really broken, so I have to hug her. I am not sure that is the right thing to do when I want to teach her that something is wrong, but that cry just pulls at the heart strings, kwim.

coasterqueen replied: I'm not sure if I've noticed her being too sensitive per se but I've noticed a change in Kylie when it comes to disciplining her and I'm not sure if or where I've gone wrong, lol.

She knows when she doesn't do something she should do or does something she shouldn't do she must say she's sorry. She does that well except she says it for EVERYTHING. If I accidently bump into her I'll say "oops, I'm sorry" but Kylie will also say she's sorry and have a look on her like she thinks she's done something wrong.

Also, if she asks for something like a sucker and I tell her no, she'll keep saying she's sorry like if she keeps doing it I'll let her have one. I'm very confused by all of this and don't know what to do, lol.

Course Kylie is not a good listener and I feel like I'm disciplining her often and probably too much. Maybe that's what my problem is. *SIGH*

booey2 replied: Sounds just like Thomas a few months ago, he still over re-acts and cries like I am killing him if I say no or his dad does. I think it is just a phase. Hang in there.

DansMom replied: Not there yet, but I'm seeing it coming. Daniel is passionate, and it's only a matter of time. I can just imagine what you were feeling like inside when she burst into tears!

kimberley replied: awww i totally kwym about that cry. it just breaks your heart. i find that the cry is more stimulated by the shock than the discipline. you said she didn't know you were there, so you probably startled her. i think you did the right thing by comforting her and maybe just remind her when she is calm that crayons are for paper.

be glad you didn't have James. if i were in the same situation with him, he would have gave me an evil grin and drew on the wall right in front of me

aspenblue1 replied: Isabella has been doing that also.

mummy2girls replied: Oh i know what you mean about the cry. Jenna was crawling onto the dishwasher door when i was putting away dishes and aron said very firmly to her... Jenna Down! She looked at him and cried an awful cry. Like he hurt her feelings cry! I couldnt handle it so i held her... I know i shouldnt of but it just tugged at my heart!

Jenna has been sensitive to the word no lately also.. it must be some kind of phase...

Josie83 replied: There is a cry that breaks your heart, I know exactly what you mean. I'm quite lucky with Cassie, she's never been one to cry either, she ahrdly ever does. When Jason and I tell her no, she'll usually copy us and shake her head and say no! It must just be another of those fabulous phases . . . xx

ediep replied: yup, Jason has been doing this too

He throws his sippy cup and DH said "NO throwing your cup Jason" very sternly and Jason pouts his lower lip and cries.

jcc64 replied: Yes, Corey's been doing this for some time. She'll stick her lip out, and then cry like you murdered her pet puppy in front of her (sorry for the graphic analogy- can't think well w/o my coffee!). While it's hard to witness, I think it's an essential part of learning. Alot of it is inner toddler turmoil, but get used to your kid getting mad at you. You think that's bad- try dealing with an adolescent.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I can usually handle the ' I got in trouble cry' but when its more the 'i am sorry and I should not have or i am hurt' cry then I have a very hard time not holding her to comfort her. Last week I went to pick her up from the sitters and she was sittling on the couch well she got very excited to see me, but she was actually in time out, the sitter told her to sit down I am not done with you, oh the cry was horrible I so wanted to hold her but I had to first find out what she did, she had hit her friend Gabby twice once with her hand then with a toy All the sitter wanted her to do was say sorry and hug her, she did and than ran to me. I really did my best not to console her but tell her we dont hit. I hate that cry.....thankfully she does not do that often

Boys r us replied: Oh yeah! Braedon, if I just firmly tell him no or when he does have to be sat in time out, he will make this horrible little quivering gasping sound..not cries..just deep quivery breaths and an incredibly sad little pouty face! Breaks my heart..LOL..maybe that's why he doesn't get punished as often as he needs it...

MommyToAshley replied:
I don't think you are doing anything wrong, I think it is perfectly normal.

Ashley will say "I'm sorry" if I bump into her too. But, if you think about it, they learn words and their meanings from our use. When we bump into them accidentally, we say "I'm sorry", so when it happens again, they naturally say "I'm sorry" even though we are the ones that bumped into them.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: OH yes Claudia is getting a lot more sensitive. I've hardly ever had to say "NO" to her, she is usually pretty mellow and doesn't really get into mischief. But the other day we were at Walmart and she let go of my hand and ran out into the parking lot. I said very firmly "Claudia NO" and she started to cry. She held my hand after that. It just really scared me! They told me at her Daycare that they have noticed this also.