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Any compulsive hoarders out there?

Hillbilly Housewife wrote: I watched dr. phil yesterday, and that's what it was about. And although I'm not as bad as some of his guests, I see that i tend to want to always keep everything, just in case.

In case of what, I don't know. tongue.gif

So I'm going to go through my bedroom today and trash / give away stuff I haven't used in a loooooooooong time or that I won't use for a long time.

I seriously have enough stuff that i would need 3 exrta rooms to have everything in it's place.

Anyone else have more than just a junk drawer or a junk room?

C&K*s Mommie replied: I am not, I would much rather throw it away and hope that it does not come back to haunt me. laugh.gif

My mother BF is- BIG TIME!! Although to walk in his house he has alot of room, and only here and there you may see things that need throwing away. But it is not overly cluttered. He has:
~~light bills & the payments from 20 years ago
~~reciepts dating back probably before we were born
~~tax stuff from way back when, too
~~newspapers stacked high (but also recycles, so I give that to him cool.gif )
~~old Military uniforms~ the only reason why he does not want to give them away is because he says they (the military) track him down and throw him in the Brig rolleyes.gif

that is all I can think of-

Now our neighbor whose house burnt down right before Christmas, is probably the queen of hoarding. Literally boxes were to the ceiling with things inside. And things scattered on the front & back lawns. The fire departments that responded wasted time trying to move them out of the way so they could get in. Her house was declared a total loss, and will be demolished- but she is still taking pics of everything burnt or not to show to the insurance company. Not including the things she piled in her car & the trips she made to the hotel to drop them off.

CAMSMOM1 replied: Oh my gosh! My DH is the hoarder!!!

We have a 4 bedroom house, and 2 of the rooms is complete full of JUNK! We never go in those rooms, can you can't even walk into them. I don't know how many times I have tried to get him to THROW IT AWAY...but it never happens. He keeps everything! banghead.gif
Have you ever seen that show, Clean Sweep, on TLC?? We seriously need to go on that show! Maybe somebody can convince him that he doesn't need his Halloween masks from 7th grade, or his old football gear, or all the boxes of magazines!
I have heard of a 2 year rule. If you haven't used it in 2 years, it's time to throw it away. But DH hasn't used this stuff in centuries! rolleyes.gif
His way of organizing is putting things in piles!
I'm not that organized either, but I don't hoard stuff. So if you ever watch Clean Sweep, you might see us on that show someday!


MamaJAM replied: To a point - we're guilty....our basement needs a MAJOR overhaul! Everything that we don't know what to do with goes down there. I don't like getting rid of things...because someone might need/want it in the future. BUT -- my SIL and I have agreed to have a big yard sale at MIL's house in the spring since we both need to purge toys/clothing/baby gear (we're doing it at MILs because they live in a nicer neighborhood...and we should be able to get more people there than if we did it at my house or SILs).

We had a dear friend, may he rest in peace, who was the 'bad' kind of hoarder. He never invited people over to his house always claiming it was "a mess". No problem - we liked having him to our house. Then he got sick and was in the hospital for a long time...since we were his closest friends - he gave us the key to his house and asked us to bring him some things. OH MY GOODNESS! I can't believe how that poor man was living! sad.gif He had things piled 1/2 to 2/3 the way to the ceiling everywhere in his house. There was a single path (barely wide enough to walk through) winding through his entire house. He had a dining room table and chairs - but only 1 chair was emtpy enough to sit on - and he had a 12/12 inch open area to set a plate and drink. His full-sized bed basically had a 'body outline' for him to sqeeze into - the rest was piled his with clothing and books. We discovered 2 sofas in his livingroom -- but they were both so burried there was no way either could be used. Every time he saw something on sale - he'd stock up...even if it wasn't something he'd ever the 300 rolls of yard we found in a closet. Anyway - you get the idea.
He passed away in Dec 2001 -- since we were his closest friends - we helped his sons clean out the house. (He was divorced twice and his 2 sons and 1 daughter were grown...but don't live in the area.) What a chore - almost nothing was 'usable' or able to be sold. They rented a huge dumpster and filled it about 10 times before the house was clean. DH and I tried -- once we had seen our friends house for the first time -- to help him start cleaning up and clearing out....but it just wasn't possible in the time we had left with him.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I must admit I do have things I need to get rid of, I have way to much stuff that I dont know what to do with it sad. I really hope to work more on it. I just wish I had more time.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: I keep almost everything - I always think I just might need it someday for something. Every once in a while I get into a clearing out mode and throw some things out - once I did that though, and then a couple of months later I needed one of the things I'd finally thrown out because I'd never need it! rolleyes.gif I just can't win. tongue.gif

mom21kid2dogs replied: wavey.gif I'd like to nominate my dad, please!! He has a 4 car garage and not a car fits in it! It is insane!!! He once told me when I was harping about it that some of that stuff was mine from HS (trophies & stuff). I told him to pitch it~if I hadn't seen it in 25 years I could seriously care less about it!! UGH!! To the best of my knowledge, it's all still in there!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: lol

my grandmother sold her house when my grandfather died last summer... it was a 5 bedroom house (4 upstairs, 1 in basement) and she didn't want to get rid of very much... so my mom took some, and we took some. I swear, I have enough for 2 kitchens, and 6 bedrooms.

I have 2 sets of dishes... well, actually, a heck of a lot more than that. We have 12 place settings for an identical set of dinnerplates, salad plates, bowls and mugs. We have an 8 place setting of dinner plates, salad plates, bowl, cups and saucers. Plus 8 matching big glasses and 8 matching little glasses, plus about 8 mixed matched coffee cups and various other drinking cups. Then we have 10 plastic plates, 10 plastic bowls, and about 6 plastic dinking cups, and a bunch of sippy cups. Then we have a set of 12 nice red wine glasses, and a smaller set of 6 white wine glasses. Plus, we have 10 champagne flutes, 8 beer steins, various little dessert cups, ceramic soup bowls, a set for salad, it's black, has a big bowl and 5 identical little bowls. Then we have a set for pasta - a big bowl, and 4 little bowls. Then we have a set of older wine glasses, 8 of thise, they were my grandmothers. Another little set of 4 white wine glasses, plus our wedding flutes.

That's just my dishes. unsure.gif

Anyhoo - I'm trying to "let go" all my various mixed matched glasses and mugs and wine glasses... but i can't bring ,yself to let go the "better stuff" like the pasta bowl set and thte black salad bowls set, even though i actually have never used either of them. I keep thinking I could sell them on Ebay, or in a yard sale... i need to get over it and get rid if it!! rolling_smile.gif

luvmykids replied: I'm only bad about certain stuff. Our old house had a 3 car garage and we couldn't hardly walk through it. It was organized, at least, just too much of it. One of my grandmothers passed away and the other moved into a retirement home so I have a lot of their stuff that is so sentimental, I have 3 sets of china from them, their Christmas decorations, furniture, knick knacks, and can't get rid of them!

I give clothes away like crazy, mine and the kids outgrown stuff.

Other stuff I'm afraid to get rid of b/c what if I need it someday and can't afford to replace it? It's ridiculous, I haven't used it in this long, why would I need it someday?

I'm working on it though. Clutter drives me crazy. wacko.gif

luvmykids replied: BTW- flylady has great tips on clearing stuff out

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Nope, my mother is a hoarder and his mother was a hoarder. I do have things that need to be organized and put in their place, but I love to throw things out or give things away, too. It doesn't bother me a bit. wink.gif

I also have things in our garage that will be sold in a garage sale this spring. I just need to take the time to go through these things, ya know?

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: I am not, if I haven't used in in the past 12 months, then it is gone. I do a thorough cleaning every April. Take huge bags to thrift stores and toss a load of stuff. Aaron on the other hand is terrible. He has shirts from Junior high, and 2 computers that don't work anymore, boxes of books he hasn't glanced at in 5 years. I hate our basement. If he would let me toss some of his stuff, it wouldn't be a half bad place.

coasterqueen replied: I used to be, but when we built our new house years ago, DH have a garbage can night....he just started throwing everything a way that I hadn't already boxed up to take into the new house - then he went through the boxes and threw out more. tongue.gif I start to clutter still, but he brings me back on track quickly. laugh.gif

BAC'sMom replied: I am but I am working on it. That is my goal for this year purge, purge, purge! If we havenít used it in the last 6 months, it will have to find another home to go to.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I AM!!! I keep too much of Taylor's stuff-I don't know why but I do have that I MAY need it thought process. I gave away 16 BOXES of Tay's clothes and toys right before her 4th birthday and 1/2 that many at Christmas time-(I was saving for our next baby baby.gif )But dh says we bought it once we can do it again and who knows if we will need it bawling.gif I am also really bad at buying her a toy or something when we go to the store for groceries-Bill says it shows that I am a SHOPAHOLIC not so much a hoarder blush.gif I WILL BE better this year- there is alot we want to do with our company and such and I have to learn to conserve $$$-

I will admit that sometimes getting rid of stuff gives me a panicy feeling but so does clutter so it is a conundrum for me wacko.gif rolling_smile.gif

kayla's mama replied: I would like to add my Grandma to the list....

She moved out of the house that my parents are in, she still has stuff in the basement. Grandpa still has stuff in the shed. Their stuff is everywhere in my parents house. My Grandparents new house is filled with more stuff. They have a garage. Can't fit a car in it, maybe a microwheels, if you can find a place emlaugh.gif

My Dad is one. He has 3 old computers downsatirs that "he's working on" emlaugh.gif He's been working on them for 5 years. He used to collect empty boxes, especially shoe boxes. He said someday I'm gonna need them. Yeah, for mom to pack all your stuff up and throw out to the trash.

Denial is the first step to recovery right.... nosmiley.gif I do not have a hoarding problem rolling_smile.gif

Cece00 replied: No way, not me. I could not stand to be that surrounded by junk. I got a storage unit just so I would not have the bins of outgrown clothes and furniture we dont use (we are moving in a few months & will have an attic for these soon) in my house. I cant stand major clutter. I mean I have a little clutter (small stack of papers near my comp. desk) but I am no where NEAR a hoarder. I couldnt take it. DH is not either.

I dont know anyone who is really a "hoarder". My boy's dad- his mom is KIND of a packrat, but nothing like on TV yesterday.

PrairieMom replied: I'm not but DH is. We just took a load of stuff to the dump, and another load to the good will last weekend! I get rid of my stuff pretty regularly, but youd think I was tearing off a limb trying to get rid of Dh's stuff!

My3LilMonkeys replied: I hoard clothes. I have 8 big plastic bins full of clothes that neither of the girls fit into right now. And I HAD 2 bins of clothes that I got too fat for and threw them away last summer b/c DH convinced me I would never be able to wear them again - and now I am small enough to fit into a lot of them and they're gone. growl.gif

luvmykids replied:
Shame on him! Does this mean you've been getting to do some shopping at his expense?

kimberley replied: wavey.gif i am a total packrat blush.gif i have stuff from grade school, high school, nearly all art made by the kids (and Jacob is 9yo!), gift bags, old christmas cards.. omg i could be here all day with stuff i just don't need that's in my house. rolleyes.gif

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