And now the Rest of the Story - why I haven't been here!

Kirstenmumof3 wrote: I will start off by saying Spencer is doing fine. He was admitted on the 8th and discharged on the 12th. During his stay in the hospital it was determined that Spencer has ODD, Obstinate Defiant Disorder. GREAT! DH and Spencer flew to Toronto on the 21st and everything is going very well. He is on a high magnesium diet, which means he can eat all the icecream, cheese and drink all the chocolate milk his little heart desires.

Now for me, on 8th I had a breakdown. I was supposed to go to an awards ceremony with my bestfriend and after we got there the room starting spinning and I became so angry. So I decided to go for a walk, I had some prescriptions to pick up. So I went to the Pharmacy, but the doctor in Toronto didn't give enough refills and my family doctor had no idea what is going on. So I walked out of the pharmacy and went back to the banquet hall. I yelled at my bestfriend and told 2 other people off. My head was spinning and I was very affraid for my safety. I called the Crisis Line twice and they refused to take me to the hospital. Even thought there mobile unit was parked in front of the Canadian Mental Health Association. By this time it was 10:00 in the evening. I caught the bus to the hospital, went to the ER and had myself admitted. I had to wait until 2:00 in the afternoon to get a bed on the Adult Mental Health Floor, but I'm so glad that I did. I've spent the last 18 days in the hospital. The psychiatrist adjusted my meds. I haven't spent that much time in the hospital since my first admission 3 1/2 years ago. My psychologist praised me for how well I did in Toronto and told the staff during rounds that I just needed to collect my thoughts and get some rest. I was so depressed I wasn't eating or participating in any activities on the unit. I wasn't talking to DH or the kids. I just wanted to be alone. I'm doing much better now. I'm home, trying to adjust to life with 3 kids and a husband again.

kimberley replied: i am so glad you got the help and rest you needed. continued prayers to you and your family.

C&K*s Mommie replied: oh Kirsten that is great that you sought help. I am glad you are out, and are on the road to readjustment.

Fabulous news about Spencer! I do not know you, but seldom does a day go by that my thoughts turn to him and you & wondering how things are. Kudos to Spencer to being so strong, and I hope he enjoys all of those snacks, and eats until he has his fill on it.

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gr33n3y3z replied: Its very nice to see you again
I'm so glad you took action into your own hands
I'm glad your feeling much better along with much needed rest

KingMom replied: I'm glad to hear you finally got the help you needed since the crisis line wasn't being helpful. Also glad to hear that DH stepped up and went with Spencer!

You should be very proud of yourself.

Continued prayers for you and your family.

holley79 replied: I am glad you got the help you needed. I continue to pray for you and yours.

AlexsPajamaMama replied: I'm glad to hear you got some help and rest! Happy news about Spencer too! Keep up the great work girl!

julesmom replied: I'm not a big poster, but I have followed your story, back to the beginning even.

You deserve a huge award for keeping it together the whole time you were in Toronto with Spencer by yourself. I think many people wouldn't have been able to handle that and keep it together. Your dh needs to realize what a huge job that was for you and would have been for anyone!

Dealing with a child with ODD is a huge stressor on it's own, coupled with what your ds was going thru?!

I hope he continues to improve. I also hope your life stablizes and your family helps you out and shows you how much they appreciate you!

BAC'sMom replied: I'm glad your feeling better and got the help you needed. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

aspenblue1 replied: I am glad you got help

luvmykids replied: I'm so glad to hear you got some help and rest. I hope things start to feel like they'll be ok for you. KUP You are all in my thoughts and prayers daily.

Halo42101 replied: Kirsten, I am so glad to hear that Spencer is getting better and that you got help for yourself as well. I can only begin to imagine just how hard all of this has been for you. Please know that I am always here for you if you need a shoulder to lean on.

MommyToAshley replied: Glad to see you back, I was getting really worried. You should be proud of yourself for getting the help you needed even though the system wasn't very helpful. Everytime I hear about the crisis line, I get angry. It doesn't sound like they are very good at their job. But, I am so glad you realized you needed help and got it.

Give Spencer and the rest of the family lots of hugs for me. It will take some time to adjust after everything the family has been through, I think an adjustment period is normal. Don't be so hard on yourself and come here anytime you need a friend because we are always here for you.

booey2 replied: Glad you were able to get the assistance you needed. Nice to see you here.

Terri

DansMom replied: it's good to hear from you. I'm so happy Spencer's doing better! It's been a brutal year, but you've come through the worst of it---you were wise to spend some time taking care of yourself.

My2Beauties replied: *sigh of relief* I was getting so worried when we hadn't heard from you. I'm so happy that Spencer seems to be doing better, and may he eat ice cream 'til he turns into ice cream Sorry for the things that you are going through, I think it's definitely probably common when put in the situation you were put in. Hope everything gets better from here on out!

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