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Am i overreacting?


mummy2girls wrote: Breannas first birthday is on saturday the 19th. I want to celebrate it on her actual birthday. Because it doesnt always happen where for the first birthday to land on a sat...So his mom says to marcus that they are planning a trip out east for a couple weeks. and they are leaving the 18th. and if we would consider moving the party one week earlier. Then she calls back and says no we will leave the 19th after her party but could you move it earlier in the day( ok earlier than 1pm....). I was a little bothered to be honest. She knew for a year when her birthday was and when im having it. why would they plan for them to leave at that time? And to ask to move it earlier in the day:( My plan was to put breanna down for a morning nap and while she sleeps i get everything ready. plus who wants to eat hotdogs and such at 1030am? not me....

then his sister tells me that she will leave the party for about an hour and a half with her oldest to take her to piano lessons. Ok i find that a bit rude to just leave. and then come back.the plan was have cake around 230pm. so we have to stop teh party and wait till she gets back?? if i did that to her she would be livid!!!!

I just find this all a bit bothering.... Am i wrong to be feeling this way??

my descion though is the party starts at 1pm!!!! You either come to celebrate your granddaughter and nieces birthday or you stay home or go up east...

DVFlyer replied: Can you have a separate smaller party with just the parents on a different day? Then have the regular party when you want.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: I would be a little upset too, but I think I'd have it at noon and just eat right away ~ that will give them a little time and you'll still be eating at a decent time. As for your sil, I think I would just say that it's ok if she needs to leave, and just let her know that you might not be able to wait for her to get back to open presents... it would be a bit much to ask the other guests to wait for her.

This year we had to rearrange our plans for Andrew's birthday ~ his birthday falls on a saturday too this year and I wanted to have his party at dinner time because the weather is so much nicer in the evening, but my sister and bil have a wedding at like 4 or 5 that they have to go to, so I moved it up to lunchtime.

luvbug00 replied: ok here are my questions/ comments.

maybe they just couldn't make the plans for the trip any other time. if they are visiting fam or friends maybe it wasn't possible for the other party to move their date. So they are kinda stuck.
*This one i side with the grandparents on not moving the date (ONLY if it was impossible due to the other party)

as for your sister in law..I'm surprised you didn't expect that from her. she's a nutcase
wacko.gif ..I side with you on this. Don't hold up the party for her. It's a piano lesson, her kid can make up the lesson later.

coasterqueen replied:
That's what I'd do, and no more than that. thumb.gif

They remind me of my sister......she knows good and well Megan's birthday is on March 16 (day before St. Patty's day). She knows we ALWAYS have her birthday either the weekend before or the weekend after and every year Megan's party lands on the weekend our town celebrates St. Patty's day with the you-know, all day beer drinking fests. Well my sister gets ticked at me every year for having Megan's party the same weekend as her beer drinking fests. Um.........is that REALLY important to you sis? More important than your niece's birthday party? Seriously! She's 30 years old - grow up! happy.gif tongue.gif Every year she acts shocked that the party is the same weekend, when she knows it's always been that way. rolleyes.gif

MommyToAshley replied:
I agree. I wouldnt' hold up the party for your SIL, and I am sure any reasonable person wouldn't expect you to. As for the grandparents, maybe you can tell them that they can come a little earlier or the day before if they'd like to spend time with her.

CantWait replied: I don't think you're over reacting that they would ask you to move it, whether it be time or day, but I think in general you're over reacting. If they can't make it, oh well, no love lost.....stick to your schedule. With the piano lessons, there's always going to be parties and such, I wouldn't mind if someone left for awhile and than came back, I wouldn't hold off on the cake, games etc whatever, they'd just have to miss whatever they miss....just save them a piece of cake.

CantWait replied: I totally hear ya on the napping bit (hence why I wouldn't move it up, waking up from nap is going to mean cranky baby at her own party probably).

Maybe grandparents wouldn't mind coming early to HELP!!!! tongue.gif

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I would just go about my plans to celebrate my daughter's day. Breanna won't know the difference if they aren't there--or how long they are there. wink.gif

You aren't overreacting, btw. I would be highly irritated, but I wouldn't change my plans to suit them. hug.gif

mummy2girls replied:
no they could of done the trip anytime. some of her family live down east and they work around when you go. You tell them we are coming august and they make it a purpose to b there. So she could of gone on the 20th. And they drive down so its not like they had to book plane tickets or such... thats why we are bothered by what she is doing

mummy2girls replied:
I guess it bothers me because if i said to my SIL im going to step out with Jenna for about 1 hour because she needs to go to swimming lessons she would be irate. And if we said to marcus's mom... can u plan the party for one week earlier or earlier in teh day because we are doing this she would makes us feel so badly. thats why i guess this is irritating. They expect us to just take that and we cant do it to them....

Calimama replied:
So don't take it. Tell them the party will be from this time to this time. You aren't moving it, postponing it, or waiting until she gets back. If they choose to miss it, it's their loss. Not worth any more of your time IMO.

luvbug00 replied: dont get angry..lol I said id side with them ONLY if it wasnt movable. But since it is, then I side with you. Go on with your plans and they will have it on their guilt if they choose not to be there. You enjoy your time with your daughter! thumb.gif

mummy2girls replied:
im not mad:) Oh and im going as planned... it starts at 1pm and whoever comes comes. It may eb a bog party it may be a small party

A&A'smommy replied: NOPE stand your grand, you don't have to be rude/mean about it but just hey I already planned it this is her birthday she needs to nap that morning so we can actually enjoy her party!!


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