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Alright.... - spill them....


Hillbilly Housewife wrote: the beans that is....... who else has been unfaithful?

Oops... did that just admit my answer? sh.gif

TheOaf66 replied: can't help you there thumb.gif

always been faithful...to my wife that is

inmom2two replied: Before voting I want to know, does once mean one time or with one person? blush.gif

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
Well in that case... i'm guilty on both counts. sh.gif

hopefulmomtobe replied: YOU GUYS! You shouldnt be unfaithful to your spouse! If your not happy then leave the marriage.

Shame on you!

My husband was unfaithful while we were dating and we were really having an off time in our relationship, although we lived together at the time and he had a one night stand and she got pregnant. So, he didnt even know this girl, they had a one night stand and then he went back when she had the baby. (that was the last time he saw the child) I knew nothing about it for almost a year! After finding out, of course I flipped out! But, we are married now and got threw all of that but it was tough! If he EVER cheats on me while we are married and breaks those vows, I will cut of his ________....you can fill it in.

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
I never mentionned my spouse.

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But, I'm sorry you went through that. My husband was unfaithful with me while we were dating as well. Once before getting pregnant, and once while I was pregnant with our first child.

hopefulmomtobe replied:
I am having a real hard time with it still....we pay child support for the child but I do not think (even though it is not the childs fault) that I could ever see the child or a picture of the child. It is just too hard, it is hard enough to be reminded of it every month we send out a check.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: That really stinks.

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Cece00 replied: I thought the question meant your spouse.

I cheated on a BF in high school when I was like 16 and I felt so bad about it (and still do to this day, he was a nice guy that did not deserve that) that I will never, EVER cheat again. EVER.

If my husband cheated on me...it would crush me. I would still want to be with him (well, probably) but I know I could not be. I respect myself too much to stay with a cheater. In fact, my ex (father of my 2 older boys) cheated on me and I stayed and I guess I learned a HARD lesson because he is the reason I told myself I would never stay with another cheater. Turns out he cheated on me MANY times, and I had suspicions of other times, but I knew he cheated once and my self esteem was low and we had 2 kids and I thought I was doing the right thing by not breaking up our family. I was so wrong and after I found out about more ppl & a little problem with drugs he had, I was gone.

And let me just say, I am SO much better off. I got to marry my best friend who I had been friends with for about 11 years, who loves me so much, honors me and our wedding vows, and treats me with an incredibly amount of respect and dignity. He is a fantastic father to our children, to my older two children, and I do not worry about him cheating. I honestly do not believe he would ever do it, esp because he has been chasing me since we were in grade school. Sure, he COULD do it, but I dont worry about it because we feel like our marriage is based on trust and respect and we both just feel its very, VERY wrong to cheat on someone, esp your spouse. I am really incredibly lucky to be married to my husband, rather than still with my douchebag ex.

I found out later he (my ex) had cheated god knows how many times (I know of about 4-5 different girls now, of course there could be more) and that is apparently just his personality. He had a gf a few months ago and he was cheating on her, too. rolleyes.gif What can I say, it was stupid of me to get involved with a 25 yr old guy when I was 18. dry.gif And he obviously is a piece of crap who doesnt respect anyone and only cares about himself. mad.gif He's good to my kids, but that is about the only thing worthwhile he has ever done, or will do, with his life.

Sorry for the novel rolling_smile.gif

inmom2two replied: I wasn't married at the time, but thanks for the concern.

hopefulmomtobe replied: Oh wow...that is rough! I thought if I should stay or not and I decided too, believe me it wasnt easy and we took time away so I could clear my head, sometimes I feel like I made the wrong decission but then again we have never ever been happier then we are now, not even when we were dating...so in a way it all turned out for the best and I do not think he would ever do that again because it isnt like he just cheated and got away with it, he is paying the price by getting the girl pregnant and having to live with that on a daily basis. We got through it and hope that we can continue but it wasn't an easy road by any means. I could not go through it again though, that is for sure.

Calimama replied: Nope, I haven't. I wanted to when Antonio and I were first starting dating.. I was 15 and stupid. Luckily I didn't go through with it. wink.gif

lisar replied: Okay Me and DH were together for 2 years a long time ago. And then we split up and werent together for 2 years and now we have been together ever since. Well the second time around I have never cheated on him. And I dont know that I would. But the first time we were together. I was like 18. I did cheat on him then. Only once. And he doesnt know. I would never tell and honestly yall are the only people that know now.

C&K*s Mommie replied: oh if you mean cheating on your spouse- nosmiley.gif

but cheating in general with bf's from the past... indeed I am guilty!

Boo&BugsMom replied: People who cheat on their spouses make me ill, and quite frankly just make me really mad. No offense to anyone, it just does. I take my marriage seriously and the vows shouldn't be taken lightly, and would never even think to do that on my spouse. NOW...I was engaged to another guy when I met my hubby...I did cheat on that guy with hubby and it was well worth it because in the end, it all worked out the way it was suppose to. biggrin.gif To be honest, I also cheated on the guy before my fiance. blush.gif Guilty to that one.

hopefulmomtobe replied: Yeah, I agree...if you are married, then you dont treat that lightly...but if you are just dating then so be it. smile.gif Game on! I dont even think I could do that knowing I was married though...ewww...I would have guilt written all over my face.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: As fas as I'm concerned, if you're married, you've taken a vow. But like someone else said, if you're just dating, GAME ON! wink.gif laugh.gif

TheOaf66 replied:
not the best of track records laugh.gif laugh.gif

glad it worked out for you in the end biggrin.gif

Boo&BugsMom replied:
You were able to tame me honey, you should be proud of yourself. biggrin.gif laugh.gif

TheOaf66 replied:
well once you have lobster, you don't go back to fish sticks laugh.gif (once you have the best you don't look for an alternative)

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Yes, I know what you meant, you didn't have to dumb it down for me in perenthesis! tongue.gif

lisar replied:
Just to make myself clear I have never cheated on my DH since we have been married. I am 27. When I was 18 and we had just met I did cheat once. But we are on the verge of a split up anyways. But I havent cheated on him in the past 4 years since we have been together this time around. And this time around is when we got married. I agree though I wouldnt cheat now that I am married. But I am guilty as far as BF's before.

I just felt that I needed to make sure everyone knew that.

Insanemomof3 replied: I am one that has been unfaithful. But the funny thing is, it was not on my husband James. James and I split up a year ago as most of you know. I started dating a guy in June, and then in about December James and I started talking about the possibility of him and I getting back together. (I was still dating another guy). Well, we explored our feelings with sex....So I cheated on the guy i was dating with my husband. LOL We did this mutiple times, and it is the ONLY time I have ever been unfaithful. But it worked out because now James and I are back together and I am so very happy. Would not change a thing.

hopefulmomtobe replied:
Yep - I knew what you meant and your secret is safe with me! smile.gif Things happen sometimes when you are dating especially if the relationship is rocky. I'm no saint...I just haven't cheated on him. (hope nobody caught the "on him" part) hee hee

grapfruit replied: I cheated on one guy when I was in HS (about 16) I felt bad about it and we broke up. He still doesn't talk to me, but I really don't care. rolleyes.gif I'm w/my honey now (5 years) and could imagine cheating on him. biggrin.gif

Boo&BugsMom replied:
That's how I took it as well Lisa. smile.gif

MomToJade&Jordan replied:
Well said.

I know what it likes to be the spouse who was cheated on, but even before that I stayed faithful because that is what everyone should do in a marriage.

lovemy2 replied: NEVER HAVE on my hubby and NEVER WOULD wub.gif but like someone said when you are dating - GAME ON!!! Not that I made a habit of it while dating but hey when something better comes along you don't always have the opportunity to end something before you start something else!!!

redchief replied: I've never cheated on a girlfriend or spouse. Man, why do you have to continually remind me how boring I am. laugh.gif

Cece00 replied:
I already said I cheated on a BF when I was 16, but I dont think dating = game on. I was stupid and young and really hurt someone. I would never do that again and I would change it if I could. I felt very ashamed of myself for doing that, and I think its deplorable to cheat, even if you are dating, which is why I never, ever did it again and never, ever will.

CantWait replied:
I don't think anyone came here to be scolded.

Nina J replied: Never on Chris..but on previous bf's, yes.

A&A'smommy replied: IMHO you guys need to not judge others on their past lives you don't know the situation or anything else about it so before you speak make sure you know what your talking about!! Don't let yourself get angry, if you do move on.

I believe in marriage I don't cheat nor have I ever...

And when your kids YEAH if your dating have fun go crazy do what you want... I agree with the dating = game on you only have the chance to have fun once so why not do what your want.

redplaydoh replied:
I guess I'm boring too... never cheated on a BF or hubby, don't think I ever will either...

gr33n3y3z replied: Never and Never

Our Lil' Family replied: I've never cheated on a BF and never ever would on DH. I am the product of a divorce due to infidelity and I could never do that.

I also don't think dating=Game On....that's awful actually....you are still hurting someone and I could never do that.

luvmykids replied: "We were on a break" LOL (Like Rachel and Ross from friends). My BF of five years and I were on a break according to me but not to him, that's when I met DH. So I don't think I cheated but if you ask him I did.

But cheating on a spouse, nope.


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