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ANyone not send their kids to preschool?


My3LilMonkeys wrote: I'm just curious - I see a lot of people talking about their children going to preschool. We have never even considered sending Brooke, partly because it's an expense we just can't afford. She's only 3 so there is still time - but I don't think we will.

So anytone else out there who didn't (or aren't planning on) sending their kid?

mckayleesmom replied: Most areas offer free preschool at age 4. I have thought about homeschooling her for preschool....but she is so excited to go....Plus she wouldn't listen to me... laugh.gif I really want her to go anyways because I think it will help her transition into Kindergarten nicely.....Plus...with the percentage of kids that do go to preschool ,Im afraid if I don't send her...she will be behind.

Nina J replied: I don't think we'll send Emily to pre-school, we're not entirely sure yet.

amymom replied: wavey.gif Me I didn't. I did put my son in a daycare program when he was four. They did what they called a preschool program in part of it. But if I had been a stay at home Mom at the time he would not have gone until K. My husband was home with MB in her 4th year and she did not attend a preschool. Although we won 6 mos of free daycare and we took advantage of that for a while and she did attend that with other children her age. Again, I think Kindergarten is plenty early.

sparkys2boys replied: Cameron has not gone yet , he's 4 and starts kindergarten in Sept. I may put him in a sumeer lay group thing more the social side of things.

ediep replied: my brother and his wife didn't put my nephew in preschool and when he started kindergarden, he was a little behind his calss mates, but he cought up quickly

BAC'sMom replied: I didn't and they both did just fine wink.gif

mom21kid2dogs replied: We didn't send Olivia to preschool. She scored above grade level on all the components on her Kindergarten screening and LOVES school as a nearly six year old K student. At our parent teacher conference, her teacher mentioned that she never realized that O didn't attend any preschool until she went to record her first series of grades. For us, it was a good decision to wait.

If do choose not to do it be prepared for immense social pressure. I was literally shocked at the comments people would make to us about not sending her. We got everything from "She'll never catch up" to "She'll never fit in" to "She'll never want to go". In reality, none of that could have been further from the truth.

MommyToAshley replied:
I may be wrong, but I think that is just a Florida thing. At least in our area, we have to pay for preschool.

Our Lil' Family replied: Wow, I didn't realize so many people didn't. DH doesn't want to send Thomas but my 2 best friends were first grade teachers and they STRONGLY suggest that all children go.... dunno.gif I think I'll probably send him, unless DH wins that battle.

grapfruit replied: I know a lot of moms that have sent their kids to a church "preschool" just to get them used to being somewhere for part of the day. The one I have in mind, her son only went 1 day a week and it was for like 4 hours. So nothing big.

I say ignore that social pressure and follow your gut. All studies show that the small boost that preschool gives kids is gone by 3rd grade. Once they get to that age it all evens out and you can't tell who went to preschool and who didn't. The involvment at home is what's important.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: We're planning on homeschooling our kids, but even if we weren't I wouldn't send them to pre-school. IMO the things they learn in pre-school you can teach them at home without the expense and them having to be away from you. I'm not sure yet if I'll do a pre-school program at home with Andrew or if I'll just wait until he's ready for kindergarten. wink.gif

coasterqueen replied:
Brianne is probably talking about public school preschool. I think public preschool is free everywhere. At least talking with others I know in different states it is. Now if you send them to private preschool then it does cost. I know if we send Kylie to our public preschool it's free. Any other preschool program we've checked into cost such an arm and a leg, which didn't seem worth it.


To OP....we tried to get Kylie into our public school preschool program this past September but she scored too high to qualify. They take the lower scored children first and then so on. Their scores aren't just based on intelligence, they are based on social issues such as those kids who have SAHP's, or a grandparent watches the children - those kids get in first because they believe those children get less social activity than those who are daycare. The problem with our school is they don't factor in those kids in at-home daycare who aren't getting social interaction either. It's a crock. Kylie would have gotten in for sure if they would have factored in that her and her sister are the only ones at their at-home daycare all day. dry.gif

We thought about private preschool, but we figured that money could be well spent somewhere else for her - like her college education. She won't be dumb, IMO, if she doesn't go and she'll do better in life with a college education - so that was our reasoning. blush.gif We have found other ways to get her the social interaction she needs and it seems to work.

Now she has one more year she could go to preschool before she gets to go to K. We are going to try to get her into the public preschool first. We'd rather that be the case anyways because then when she starts K she'll already know kids because she would have been in pre-k with them. If she doesn't get in we are going to try to work something out with a church-based private preschool and our at-home daycare so the cost isn't that much more than we are paying now. I want her to go one year 1/2 day in school before going to K and going all day. The adjustment would just be too much.

With Megan I plan to send her both years, unless she catches up quickly to where her sister was at that age. She's always been a bit 'behind' and I think she needs a bit more help than her sister does. It's so hard to focus on that with her at home because her sister wants our attention and so on and so forth. wacko.gif Megan will have no problem getting into our public preschool because she qualifies right off the bat being that she was born early.

coasterqueen replied:
ITA!!! thumb.gif And I stress the importance of involvement at home. It's the most important IMO. Too many parents these days rely too much on the schools to teach their children, when teaching should begin at home.

luvbug00 replied: No preschool here. (we have to pay but we could afford it ) i just thought if she is gonna play anyway why can't she stay with me and play with her own stuff. and so i didn't send her and she made it threw school fine,

hawkshoe replied: I hadn't planned to with my first son for the same reason you site, $. Also, I honestly didn't think it was necessary. Then a neighbor told me about a free program through our local high school. I thought it over and decided to enroll him. It met 2 times a week for 1.5 hours. I really didn't expect him to "learn" anything there, I just thought it would be good to get used to how a classroom works, getting in line, sitting, following directions, etc. It was a very positive experience for him. He did it for 2 years. I have put my youngest in the same program. If I had to pay for preschool, I honestly doubt my kids would be going.

mom21kid2dogs replied:
In Ohio, the public system is not mandated to provide preschool thus it is not free where offered. Our public school started offering preschool 3 years ago. It's $126 a week for their 5 day all day curriculum. They do offer a sliding fee guideline based on 130% of poverty level to help offset the costs for lower income families but for most of us~it's certainly not free here.

coasterqueen replied:
Wow! That stinks. Our (not so great) governor even expanded ours this past year and a law was passed that ALL kids cannot be denied preschool. So even if you go to private you can submit paperwork to get some of the private preschool funding paid for. My pride steps in the way of that though. I won't let the government help me pay to go to private. blush.gif Our public school systems were given money to expand their preschool programs as well. Our school actually expanded their classes from 2 preschool classes to 4.

Boo&BugsMom replied: The answer is both yes and no for us. Since I run the daycare/preschool at home there is no need for him to go somewhere else when he gets all his academics and socialization here at home. He does other things out of the home like sports and he is in Awana at church as well. He gets plenty of socialization and he's more than ready academically, so there is no need.

If I wasn't doing the daycare and preschool at home, I'm not sure what we'd do. Our district is one of the only ones that does not offer public preschool through the schools. In my case, it's good, it keeps me in business, but knowing I wont be doing this much longer it would be nice to have that option since affording a private preschool is out of the question financially. So, for Tanner it's a no, but he gets preschool in MY home preschool. With our next one, who knows what will happen.

3xsthefun replied: I didn't send Kaitlynn to preschool. And she is doing just fine.

I'm thinking about sending Maegan though. Only because she will be 6 before she can start Kindergarten, thanks to how her birthday lands. But I probably will not send her until she is 4. I want to be sure get her fully potty trained before I send her, she still has accidents sometimes.


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