A Spin off of Leannes thread - CIO

moped wrote: SO, with the parents of 2 children that have done CIO - how did the CIO in the middle of the night work for the older child who is sleeping so soundly? I mean did it wake them up too?
I am curious how to get around that whole thing........

A&A'smommy replied: Very good question, Jen! I would like to know this also

luvmykids replied: I never had trouble with it, the twins have always been hard sleepers The only time it was an issue was right before their own bedtime, as long as it was staggered enough for them to really be asleep before Macie cried, no problemo. I'm a big advocate of staggering bedtimes anyway, so each kid gets their own story and snuggle time.

My2Beauties replied: Hanna is still awake when I put Aubrey to sleep, most of the time she is playing in her room so it wasn't an issue lsat night. I'll also say that one time I left the monitor thing in the livingroom (where Hanna sleeps) all night and Aubrey woke up several times that night crying and hanna never flinched. I wen tin there to make her bottle about 4:30 finally after fighting with her 3-4 times to go back to sleep and I could hear her on the monitor all the way in the kitchen. I was like how are you sleeping through that, she was snoozing! It never bothers her. Now if they shared a room it may.

moped replied: Interesting............keep the responses coming

bawoodsmall replied: Sometimes Aiden will still wake up in the mid of the night and cry for 5 mins or so and Em will not wake up. She will though if it is early in the morning. I sometimes wonder how she sleeeps through it.

kimberley replied: i only tried CIO with Jade for a short time. noise wasn't an issue because the boys were so used to her crying in the night, in the day, whenever, for so long, they slept right thru it.

good luck.

Cece00 replied: My kids never woke when the others were crying. I guess they just sleep well.

Nathansmom replied: I am living this right now...

In the middle of the night, it's not an issue, Nathan sleeps through anything, so he doesn't wake up if Ryan cries, and Ryan is doing better now, so the nights aren't an issue. I am however, doing CIO at naptimes right now (be nice to me, it's the only way I can get Ryan to nap in his crib). Nathan isn't always asleep, so we explained it to him, and how Ryan needs to learn to fall asleep the way he does, so he might cry as he gets frustrated.

Nathan cried himself for a couple naptimes after the first time, he said he would do it if Ryan did it, but he forgot after that, and he doesn't say anything anymore...I go into Ryan's room every 5 minutes, and I quiet him down so it's not constant all the time.

For us, the biggest thing was explaining to Nathan that Ryan had to cry because he couldn't talk the way he could, and Nathan has to use his words, he is a big boy, and Ryan has to cry to communicate with us right now.

Did all that rambling make sense.....let me know if you need to know more...

lovemy2 replied: I fortunately never had that problem - Dylan went to bed WAY earlier than Olivia - and we really never had to do any form of CIO during the nite - it was more the going to bed part - I didn't do any kind of CIO until he was already able to make it through the nite more or less -

Olivia sleeps like a rock too so - it was never a problem.

I have a friend whose son is FOUR - still sleeps in her bed cause he won't sleep through the nite any other way let alone GO to sleep alone at nite - she never did the CIO or anything like it cause she didn't want it to wake her other daughter and DH during the nite - I told her PHOOEY - it will take one week tops to break him of it - so everyone is tired for a week - it would have been alot better than where she is now - a FOUR year old in her bed EVERY nite and no other way to get him to nap except to nap with him

My2Beauties replied:
See that is what I was afraid was going to end up happening with Hanna because she was an awful sleeper. It was like one day she just got it and started doing well...thank goodness. DH would always go pick her up and bring her to bed with us and it drove me crazy. I finally told him to STOP doing that. Eventually she realized hey can't go in mom and dad's bed anymore. Not too long after that she started sleeping 10x better. Now nothing wakes that kid up!

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Tanner is a very hard sleeper. A train could go through his room and he'd still stay alseep. We haven't had to let Aiden wail yet since he's pretty content with his pacifier and blanket and he does well being rocked sometimes, but the times he has fussed it hasn't woke Tanner up...yet...and they share a room. If there comes a time where we will have to let Aiden just wail himself to sleep, then he'll start to go to bed earlier than Tanner, which he does right now by 30 mintues anyways.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: OMG I am having such a hard time with this right now. But it's the baby who's our good sleeper and Andrew who we're doing CIO with. At bed time I just either put them in bed at the same time because Allie falls asleep fine when Andrew's crying - it's just when she's sound asleep and he starts crying that it's a problem. But in the middle of the night I've been letting Andrew come to bed with us still because the first couple nights we tried letting him cry every time he woke up during the night Allie woke up too and then they just kept each other -and me- up. I'm going to try putting Allie to bed in the pack and play in our room for a few nights while we try to get Andrew to break the habit of sleeping in our bed. Our room is down the hall from Andrew's and it might be a little quieter for her... Allie's room is right across from Roo's and he cries so loud.